I have just had the pleasure of reading a most outstanding piece on Huffpost called “Redefining Butch-femme Relationships”, by Georgia Kollas, writer, Huffington Post blogger, and cultural observer. I loved it! It could not have been any better! I encourage all of you to give it a good read! Also, Ms. Kollas is a self-identified […]Read More Again on Butch-femme Relationships
Would you rather live life according to the approval of others or aligned with your truths and your dreams? Inadvertently we all start out in this world in the way of living according to the approval of others; it’s called childhood. We are dressed to the approval of our parents – or grandparents – and […]Read More Approval of Others….Or Truth of Self?
Comment received from Lipstick Lady “I’m a feminine (lipstick) lesbian, and I honestly don’t understand the whole femme/butch dynamic. I’m not attracted to men, and I’m not attracted to women who look like men, either. But that’s just me (and a couple of my friends in the community as well). My gay male friends don’t […]Read More Understanding B-F Dynamics, a Comment Answered
I recently had a question asked by two different viewers on my Youtube channel, and it gave me pause for thought, and fodder for a blog and vlog on the topic. The question is “Can Butches and Femmes be just friends?” Meaning here, can they successfully navigate the terrain of friendship – without becoming emotionally […]Read More The Butch-Femme Friendship Dilemma
During the month of July, 2010, I did a video blog – or a vlog – called “Lesbian Dating Application” which was very funny, but serious too as it laid out all of the things that would and would not work in a relationship for me. Here I would like to revise that previous performance, […]Read More Relationship Checklist
More great things I did not include in the last blog about the”Butch Visibility” stuff. These are just sort of some of the things incorporated into my own Butch Template, they feel engrained, sort of like they are just THERE and I can’t explain why; but they are reasons and nuances of my own Butch-hood…the […]Read More More on My Personalized Butch Template
I have been doing quite a bit of reading of some other great blogs here on WordPress, as well as listening to people discuss their lives and issues surrounding “identity policing” on Youtube and Vimeo, and other places. It’s been a topic on Facebook as well, and Twitter, too…hell every social network seems to be […]Read More Identity Policing and the Enforcers