Butch desire is to fem hunger what peanut butter is to jelly; what ying is to yang. I recently read a really GREAT blog about “hunger”; specifically fem hunger. You can read it here, which is my previous cross post about this blog, and will connect you with this wonderful blogger. The writer is a […]Read More Butch Desire
“How do we bridge who we become with who we were?” “Remember who you wanted to be” quoted from a bumper sticker I saw yesterday “Language sets expectations” I seem to be running into all of these one-liners that are basically alluding to identity and I find this very interesting. I have also had some […]Read More Identity Complexity
I seem to keep running into this word: Intersectionality. So, I went to Wikipedia to research it’s origin and meaning; to give myself some basic understanding of the word. This is one of those specific times that I wish I had much more direct contact, like in face-to-face conversations, with others in the LGBT community […]Read More Big Word: Intersectionality
I am Butch. A Butch who loves femme women in particular and a member of the Butch-femme community; a community that struggles in today’s politically correct sort of world. We are more often than not, ostracized for “copy catting or aping” heteronormativity. My partner is asked why she feels the “need” to be so feminine, […]Read More Rules Don’t Apply: Being Butch
Man! Has language changed some radically since I’ve been walking this green earth. Daily I am surprised by the “new” use of “old” words; the newer definitions and meanings of some. Start with the word we all know and use in a zillion different ways: Queer. Now we know the dictionary meaning to be “odd […]Read More Those Darned Definitions…
What is the real meaning of being alone. What do each of us consider when we say that we feel alone or that we are alone? I’m sitting here tonight, my friend from the neighborhood is here, playing on her computer in the living room. We just hang this way sometimes. She comes over and […]Read More The Christmas Blues
I am a very passionate person. I tend to write sometimes without rereading and adjusting things that come off wrong evidently. I get into just writing my thoughts, and I should be doing more proofing I guess, but the passion of the moment in writing overrides me sometimes. It’s hard to explain how I truly […]Read More Who Am I ?
Flannel Files is a blog that I read regularly. In a post concerning her own personal metamorphosis she asks these questions… “”What about you? Are you a moody butch or in a relationship with one? Are you still a work in progress or is your transformation complete?” I certainly have been told that I am […]Read More Moods and Transformation
Sudden Awareness blogged “Talking Tough” and asked this question: Why do we value strength so much that it is one of the most frequently cited attributes used to define our ideal selves? Butches are generally seen as strong. Rough, tough and resolutely strong. It’s been bred into us seemingly, either from our bio-parents or from […]Read More Butch Strength
Would you rather live life according to the approval of others or aligned with your truths and your dreams? Inadvertently we all start out in this world in the way of living according to the approval of others; it’s called childhood. We are dressed to the approval of our parents – or grandparents – and […]Read More Approval of Others….Or Truth of Self?