There will always be someone who disagrees, no matter what the topic is. And inside the LGBT…xyz community there are many voices, many cultures, tons of identities and buckets of genders. I recently cross posted an interesting article that was on Slate.com titled “Why I’m Still a Butch Lesbian” in a Facebook group that I […]Read More Butch…Trans…A Conversation
It used to be so much more simple! It used to be that you were either gay or straight, period. Or at least that is how it was in my world growing up in the 60’s/70’s and partying my ass off in the gay bars in the 80’s…it used to be easier I believe. I’m […]Read More The Gender Revolution?
“How do we bridge who we become with who we were?” “Remember who you wanted to be” quoted from a bumper sticker I saw yesterday “Language sets expectations” I seem to be running into all of these one-liners that are basically alluding to identity and I find this very interesting. I have also had some […]Read More Identity Complexity
Anyone else relate to being a tomboy? Being trans and being a tomboy / gender non-conforming child often go hand in hand, but often the two are mutually separate… a question posed by janitorqueer on their blog. Growing up I constantly fought with my parents over my clothing choices, they wanted me to […]Read More Tomboy to Butch…My Story
I’ve been doing a lot of great reading today and tonight specifically around Butch-Femme lifestyle and dynamics. I read one article about Butch “peacocking” and that got me thinking, and it lead me to other links to other writings by some awesome other Butch writers. Yeah, we seem to always be the “others” even in […]Read More Inspirational Butch Authors: My Heroes
The way we are raised, the way we grow up is responsible for forming many of the ways that we think and it informs the way that one looks at the world. No two people look at things exactly the same. We are taught our manners, our prejudices and our ways as we are raised […]Read More MainelyButch: Butch Rambles
I had a pretty packed day today. Once I overcame my Monday blahs and it became Tuesday I found my energy once more and definitely used it up today. It was an interesting day, and I’ve been pondering some of it’s points tonight, and realized that since my top surgery I’ve been almost hyper-aware of […]Read More Hyper Awareness of Gender Identity
“Significant problems cannot be solved at the same level of thinking which created them.” Einstein I read the most horrible blog yesterday here on WordPress, and was stunned to see such a waste of time and space on here. I’ll give you the general gist of the blog: it was hateful. AND the blogger was […]Read More Stop the Stupid In-Fighting!
Flannel Files is a blog that I read regularly. In a post concerning her own personal metamorphosis she asks these questions… “”What about you? Are you a moody butch or in a relationship with one? Are you still a work in progress or is your transformation complete?” I certainly have been told that I am […]Read More Moods and Transformation
From “The Daily Post” “ Tell us about the home where you lived when you were twelve. Which town, city, or country? Was it a house or an apartment? A boarding school or foster home?” I was a rather lucky kid. I grew up in a rather complete family; Mom, Dad and two younger brothers, and two […]Read More My 12th Year…Where I Was…Growin Up