So, I got up on Monday and made the decision in my head to drag my ass out of the stupid funk that I had gotten into, change my attitude and to have a good week. And…it worked. I’ve been very upbeat all week. And tonight I even invited my parents over to my place […]Read More Role Models
It used to be so much more simple! It used to be that you were either gay or straight, period. Or at least that is how it was in my world growing up in the 60’s/70’s and partying my ass off in the gay bars in the 80’s…it used to be easier I believe. I’m […]Read More The Gender Revolution?
Man! Has language changed some radically since I’ve been walking this green earth. Daily I am surprised by the “new” use of “old” words; the newer definitions and meanings of some. Start with the word we all know and use in a zillion different ways: Queer. Now we know the dictionary meaning to be “odd […]Read More Those Darned Definitions…
Ah, the infamous Michigan Women’s Music Festival is approaching (I believe it’s in August, don’t quote me)…and this the “war” of who “qualifies” to attend and who does not has begun…or actually just continues. I am writing today in response to the posting by ButchFemmeListings concerning the controversy over attendee qualification. First of all let […]Read More Response: MichFest and The Controversy…Who Qualifies as a Woman?
“This week for Think About it Thursday, I ask you to tell us what you thought you wanted to be when you grew up. Did you become what you dreamed of?” This is a tricky question for me. There are things you, as a child, would say you wanted to “be” when you grew up…like […]Read More Think About It Thursday
Comments, Posts, Replies, etc….here, there and everywhere. We post little tidbits, our daily experiences, incidents we have watched or participated in somewhere along the line, etc. And directly under those posts, on every social platform website that I know of, is a place where readers can leave “comments” and generally “like” the post. Notice there […]Read More Social Media, Comments, Replies and the LGBT Community
“Everytime that I am misgendered I am reminded that I do not fit; that I am not this. I am not that.” ivan e coyote from “Gender Failure” (on Youtube clip about ivan and Rae Spoon’s Gender Failure performances). I can relate with many of ivan’s stories and have all but the very latest (which IS on […]Read More The Proverbial Line
How do you define “Butch”? Does Butch always mean “female”? Butch is fierce, strong and rough, yet gentle. Butch is no-nonsense, yet silly sometimes. Butch is a generally tough exterior, yet a sort of teddy bear on the inside. Butch is that feeling that you need to fix everything…even when you know you can’t. Butch […]Read More How do you define “Butch”? Response…
I recently had a question asked by two different viewers on my Youtube channel, and it gave me pause for thought, and fodder for a blog and vlog on the topic. The question is “Can Butches and Femmes be just friends?” Meaning here, can they successfully navigate the terrain of friendship – without becoming emotionally […]Read More The Butch-Femme Friendship Dilemma
During the month of July, 2010, I did a video blog – or a vlog – called “Lesbian Dating Application” which was very funny, but serious too as it laid out all of the things that would and would not work in a relationship for me. Here I would like to revise that previous performance, […]Read More Relationship Checklist