Again on Butch-femme Relationships

I have just had the pleasure of reading a most outstanding piece on Huffpost  called "Redefining Butch-femme Relationships", by Georgia Kollas, writer, Huffington Post blogger, and cultural observer.  I loved it!  It could not have been any better!  I encourage all of you to give it a good read! Also, Ms. Kollas is a self-identified... Continue Reading →

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Rules Don’t Apply: Being Butch

I am Butch.  A Butch who loves femme women in particular and a member of the Butch-femme community; a community that struggles in today's politically correct sort of world.  We are more often than not, ostracized for "copy catting or aping" heteronormativity.  My partner is asked why she feels the "need" to be so feminine,... Continue Reading →

The Femme/Butch Question

So I get quite a few questions posed to me because of my Youtube channel and other internet venues I am involved in, one of the most common questions is "why do Femme lesbians want to date Butch lesbians? Why don't they just date a man?" Of course this question is very irritating to me,... Continue Reading →

Butch-phobia….my personal rant

I was directed to a blog last night that stunned the crap out of me with its anti-Butch/Femme/Trans overtones and direct, blatant lies and misconception.  It infuriates me that this far into the fight for equality across the board the we are still belittling and ridiculing each other right her within the LGBT alphabet soup... Continue Reading →

Identifying as Butch: Butch Perspectives

I am Butch.  I identify myself as Butch.  Some may call is a “label”, I call it my identity; my gender.  There will always be arguments about “labels” within the LGBT community, no matter what not everyone uses them or identifies with any particular group or sub-group.  That’s a personal choice.  A choice I have... Continue Reading →

Who God Intended Me to Be

I personally have no idea what it’s like to be any other way than Butch lesbian.  I know some people “come out” later in life and “figure out” they are LGBT…or that they are Butch or Femme,  a tweener, a granola, queer, or __________(fill in the blank with your favorite identity marker or label).  For... Continue Reading →

Relationship Checklist

During the month of July, 2010, I did a video blog – or a vlog – called “Lesbian Dating Application” which was very funny, but serious too as it laid out all of the things that would and would not work in a relationship for me. Here I would like to revise that previous performance,... Continue Reading →

It seems, unfortunately in 2012 that being comfortable in just being who you are, and allowing others to do that same thing, not policing them in return - even when they do it to you - has just become the sort of "norm" way of thinking inside of the LGBTQ  community   I am saddened... Continue Reading →

Identity Policing and the Enforcers

I have been doing quite a bit of reading of some other great blogs here on WordPress, as well as listening to people discuss their lives and issues surrounding "identity policing" on Youtube and Vimeo, and other places.  It's been a topic on Facebook as well, and Twitter, too...hell every social network seems to be... Continue Reading →

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