Butch Stuff, Things Butch-Femme

The Scorn of Labels, Identifiers and Belonging

(I have about had it with being scorned for identifying as Butch....dammit. ~ MainelyButch)“It isn’t an elapsed time since birth, sometimes, but the elapsed-time-since-rebirth since one’s heart and, not incidentally, loins make themselves known” (S. Bear Bergman, “Butch is a Noun” Arsenal Pulp Press, 2010)I hear the words all the time “we are all just… Continue reading The Scorn of Labels, Identifiers and Belonging

Relationships, Things Butch-Femme

The Butch-Femme Friendship Dilemma

I recently had a question asked by two different viewers on my Youtube channel, and it gave me pause for thought, and fodder for a blog and vlog on the topic. The question is “Can Butches and Femmes be just  friends?”  Meaning here, can they successfully navigate the terrain of friendship -  without becoming emotionally… Continue reading The Butch-Femme Friendship Dilemma

Things Butch-Femme

Accidental Explosion…don’t try this at home!

Daily Press…“Write about something that you did that you would advise a friend to never do.”I once built a horse barn from 2” thick rough cut lumber.  Being rough cut, it was not dimensionally perfect, in other words 2” “rough” cut meant it was straight from the mill’s saw, no finishing, no making it “exactly”… Continue reading Accidental Explosion…don’t try this at home!

Butch Stuff

Who God Intended Me to Be

I personally have no idea what it’s like to be any other way than Butch lesbian.  I know some people “come out” later in life and “figure out” they are LGBT…or that they are Butch or Femme,  a tweener, a granola, queer, or __________(fill in the blank with your favorite identity marker or label).  For… Continue reading Who God Intended Me to Be