Closet or Not?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this topic, I watched a video on YouTube about whether it’s okay or not to stay “in the closet” about your sexuality if you are LGBT forever or not. This gave me a lot to think about because I am currently talking to someone who IS living in the […]

Those Darned Definitions…

Man! Has language changed some radically since I’ve been walking this green earth. Daily I am surprised by the “new” use of “old” words; the newer definitions and meanings of some. Start with the word we all know and use in a zillion different ways: Queer. Now we know the dictionary meaning to be “odd […]

Authenticity

Authenticity comes in many forms. Lesboi wrote recently about Authenticity and asked what it is for us. I found their post to be extremely timely, for I am one who tries to be my authentic self always, and Lesboi brings up some very specific points about it: This morning I found myself watching this video […]

Final Words on Labels

From Kim “On a completely unrelated topic, one of these fine days, could you do a video on “labels” and the importance/unimportance of them (based on your opinions and perspectives)? I know you’ve said before that you identify strongly as “Butch” and use the label often, and many people within the community do identify […]

Stone Butch Views

“I have a question for those of you who are stone butch identified. I have personally found that a lot of stone butch I’ve dated are in fact not stone at all by the definition I understand. Why is it that our butch brethren feel the need to add ‘stone’ to their label if they […]

Midnight Sighs

Lightning in the midnight skies Those sweet palest of blue eyes Kisses leave me wondering who Lead me to so desiring you. Searing hot and soaking wet Yet barely had I been there yet Passion like a midnight storm Need and want above the norm Flowing like the soaking rain Bring ecstasy and a burning pain Fire and […]

Stop the Stupid In-Fighting!

“Significant problems cannot be solved at the same level of thinking which created them.” Einstein I read the most horrible blog yesterday here on WordPress, and was stunned to see such a waste of time and space on here. I’ll give you the general gist of the blog: it was hateful. AND the blogger was […]

Moods and Transformation

Flannel Files is a blog that I read regularly. In a post concerning her own personal metamorphosis she asks these questions… “”What about you? Are you a moody butch or in a relationship with one? Are you still a work in progress or is your transformation complete?” I certainly have been told that I am […]

Approval of Others….Or Truth of Self?

Would you rather live life according to the approval of others or aligned with your truths and your dreams? Inadvertently we all start out in this world in the way of living according to the approval of others; it’s called childhood. We are dressed to the approval of our parents – or grandparents – and […]

The Proverbial Line

“Everytime that I am misgendered I am reminded that I do not fit; that I am not this. I am not that.” ivan e coyote from “Gender Failure” (on Youtube clip about ivan and Rae Spoon’s Gender Failure performances). I can relate with many of ivan’s stories and have all but the very latest (which IS on […]