Reaction to the Methodist Church’s Anti-LGBT+ Declaration

I’ve been contemplating writing this blog post for days now…since the conference and decision by the United Methodist church to treat LGBT people differently; to deny them marriage ceremonies and the opportunity to serve in the church by ordination.

Let me first tell you that I am not very heavily involved in my church, which is the United Methodist Church, but I was raised in the church, attending Sunday school and later participating in teen Youth Group and Sunday services. I was baptized in the UMC at age 12 and today I go occasionally to remind myself of my upbringing and to see the people at church who I didn’t get to see otherwise very often.

The church I attended, since I was a toddler, was St. Mark’s United Methodist Church in Kittery, Maine. It was very old, built in the 19th century and if walls could talk I am sure it had many memories and secrets it could tell. I once kissed my boyfriend while we were up in the belfry to ring the bell calling people to church one Sunday when I was just a kid. I learned the “trust fall” in our Youth Group meeting one evening in my teens. I attended weddings, funerals, services and special events at this church. I sang hymns from the old wooden pews, prayed with my congregation, and put my money in the offering plate as it was passed from person to person toward the end of every service. After church services on Sundays, I would gather with the rest of the people in the community room downstairs and drink coffee, have sweet snacks, and chat about life with the others. I shared in love, laughter, anger, sadness, and tears with those people. They were my church family. And somehow I always thought they would continue to be that family when I needed them.

Then, during a huge convention held by the UMC, comes this completely hateful judgement against the LGBT+ community of the Methodist Church; against a community that has dutifully supported that church and who were formerly proud to be treated fairly equally by the UMC – at least here in the USA. A formed statement denying the LGBT+ members church marriages, the opportunity to serve the church in formal capacity, and any equality with non-LGBT+ members.

My own church always seemed so welcoming and I once even spoke before the congregation about being a lesbian living with HIV even. Now I discover that what I formerly believed about the UMC is all based upon lies. My church is control and owned by a governing body that openly declares and professes that it will provide NO support, inclusion, protection or tolerance for the LGBT+ members.

The whole thing makes me sick. It makes me angry and sad at the same time. All of those years I had been supportive of my church and had been proud to be a member now mean absolutely nothing. My existence is an abomination to God in their governing body’s eyes and minds.

I am sure that not all of the private members of the UMC church share these feelings, LGBT+ or not, I know I have supporters but it’s the whole damned idea of being shunned in this fashion on the world stage. I have read that many of the congregations around the country have bucked this decision and are telling us they love and support us despite this ruling and I appreciate that but it doesn’t negate the fact of the matter.

It is high time to END federal tax exemption for ALL religious organizations. Time to stop treating churches like they are “neutral” spaces – because they are NOT. Churches preach political views, are homophobic, bigoted and racist organizations and it’s high time we stop supporting this behavior being perpetrated in the name of “God” and “religious freedom” – BULLSHIT is what it truly is.

Atheism is looking mighty good these days.

4 thoughts on “Reaction to the Methodist Church’s Anti-LGBT+ Declaration

  1. I’ve always found that any belief system that tells people it’s their way or the highway, or has a hierarchy with a bloke at the top has something missing at the heart of it.
    And when you think about it their ‘god’ is a bit of a johnny-come-lately in the grand scheme of human belief systems. 🙂


  2. First your beloved armed services and then your faith community. I was astounded by the Methodist vote since the denomination seemed to me to be going in a different direction. I have a deep Christian faith and it is obvious to me that Jesus, who ate with tax collectors and prostitutes( the outsiders in his day)and shared water with a Samaritan woman(no count in his days)would eat with LGBT people outside the doors of many Christian churches.

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  3. My family church is the LDS (Mormons). For decades they have spent Millions fighting against LGBTQ rights and have also had an agenda to tell lies and distortions about us. They have made parents feel that we are predators even though the majority of predator’s are Bishops in the Mormon Church and Priests in the Catholic Church. But they never want talk about the facts. The fact is are, the mass majority of child predators identify as Heterosexual. An overwhelming majority are heterosexual males. Of course there are exceptions as w/ any rule or anything. So, they project onto our community what is in fact a sickness within their own. That’s not right. And during the whole mess of Prop 8 in CA, the LDS church spewed hate from the pulpit; asking their members to donate money towards their efforts to smear us in the media. It was sickening and it turned the stomach’s of many fair minded Conservatives to the point that it back fired on them. Their commercials that they produced and aired were mean spirited and awful. All in the name of God. God loves he does NOT hate. And what they’ve done to our community including twice a year, they hold a General Conference here in Utah and they ALWAYS have something mean to say about us and the news media airs it of course b/c it’s controversial. So, I have to be reminded in April and September just how much we are hated. They claim that they love us but marginalizing us, demeaning us, spewing lies about us. That’s NOT love, not even close. No other way to see it but hate. I’ve always felt like I didn’t measure up once my whole family found out that I am a lesbian. And I’ve felt like I didn’t belong and that’s very difficult to deal w/ esp. when you’ve already tried everything you could think of to “fix it”. And nothing works. It was hard coming out in the early Eighties but even harder b/c my families Church taught them to view me as a sinner who needed to be saved. And how do you treat someone like that? As if they are “less than” and don’t measure up. Every little gesture; in every little way; I never felt truly loved for exactly who I am. Including, my quirky personality. People need to learn to love more in this world. Just love and live and let live too.

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    1. I think I would seriously consider finding a more welcoming place to worship; another denomination completely. I know Mormons fairly well, I lived in Hurricane UT and my girl at the time was Mormon, although not practicing as she disagreed with their stance on this and other issues as well. #2, I hope you do NOT EVER donate ANY money to them, for any reason, because that would only reward them for treating you (us) so horrifically. They’re pretty damned rich anyway, they don’t need any LGBT bucks!!! Thanks for this, I appreicate knowing other’s stories on religion right now…I still have not made my own decision of what i will do – if anything – at this point and in the future. ~Ang


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