The weekend has been relatively uneventful. Lots of napping with my dogs, puttering around the house at various chores like laundry and playing on the computer. I am finding that winter – or cold weather in general – keeps my energy level down and I don’t have much motivation to do anything outside the house. Although, I did venture out twice over the weekend.
The first trip was on Saturday morning. I put the dog’s coats on them, packed them into the Envoy and off we went to the church Christmas fair. I had promised my mom and the church ladies that I would check out their fair, so I did my duty and went. I actually spent about $10 on a couple of sweet little snowmen (made by my Mom) and a pair of handmade mittens (only $2!) and some peanut butter fudge (couldn’t resist!), so I didn’t do bad. I also stopped at the Christmas craft fair at the Lion’s club, where I found mostly jewelry being sold. Nice stuff, but nothing I was really interested in right now. I picked up some homemade dog cookies though, and the dogs loved them!
Sunday I ventured out after noon time. Big mistake. I forgot that today is the Sunday before Thanksgiving and I went to the grocery store. It was a MAD HOUSE! The parking lot was FULL, and the store was just INSANE! I got my coffee K-cups, some cranberry-cinnamon goat cheese (which I LOVE) and some dog treats (can’t forget those!) made it through the crowd to the express lane check out and go the hell out of there! The dogs, again dressed in their adorable hoodies, were waiting patiently in the truck. Friday I had taken them to the park (Dead Duck Inn) and let Nola run her guts out while I walked around with Lulu safely leashed. I wanted to do that again today, but it was VERY windy and cold outside.
I’ve been spending time online lately and I’ve been overwhelmed with all of the various wide-spread sexual harassment stuff. It’s just been overload, if you ask me. It’s like the snowball effect, and it’s growing larger by the day. I have all these mixed up thoughts about it all. I think that sexual harassment has become so common place in today’s world that we often overlook most of it. Then when it becomes “THE” issue of the day, and everyone is talking about it, we see all sorts of examples of it and opinions of what we each think. The conversation has gotten so loud that we are all talking over each other at this point. Someone needs to write a kind of new citizens’ “code of conduct” so that there’s a baseline for what is and isn’t considered harassment. We are certainly seeing that stuff that was tolerated in the past is no longer okay today. There are generational differences, cultural differences and power plays all involved.
Personally, sure I’ve experienced sexual harassment in the past. As a woman I think it’s just part of what I’ve come to expect from some men. I’ve also been harassed about being lesbian, being Butch, and being a Democrat. I have a misdemeanor assault charge on my record for decking a dude that grabbed my ass. I round-housed his ass, knocked him out cold. But I accidently didn’t see the cop watching….so I got charged, regardless that it was a reaction to having my ass grabbed!
I wish it would all settle down. We all need to sit back and take a deep breath. I’m not saying that those who have experienced any sort of thing like sexual harassment should “forget” it or “forgive” it, but I also think that some of the acusations are a bit petty. Like “he touched my breast when he hugged me”…that’s a little vague, and maybe he didn’t mean it intentionally, maybe it was accidental. I don’t know what the fuck to think!
I do think that there are certainly varying “degrees” of harassment coming out. The Roy Moore stuff, where he was exerting his power as an adult in a position of authority to seduce underage girls is NOT acceptable in any way, under any circumstances. And the acusations about Trump are not to be taken lightly either. And the fact that Trump support the pedophile Moore, is just sickening. They would rather have a pedophile in office as Senator than a Democrat. Pathetic. And we have to listen to all this bullshit until December 12 when they hold the election in Alabama.
Sexual stuff has long been part of our make up. We often play or tease one another, and generally it’s all in fun. I’ve been known to touch a few tits in my time, or grab an ass here and there….in fun and to amusement – – in no way to “harass” Sure, I’ve told bad jokes, or made angry phone calls. But when does it amount to harassment? My answer would be: when it’s done with the intent to make the other person feel uncomfortable, to bend them to your will, to exert your personal power (whatever it may be) over that person to “make” them do something that they do not want to do.
This topic is a really tough one. I don’t know who has the answers, or what all of this focus on it now will lead us to. Just be damned sure when you are “flirting” with someone that it’s wanted and not harassment! Jeez, it’s enough to make a Butch a little nervous…like we needed any more reasons!
I haven’t been talking much about Trump in my blogs lately, because he’s in the news 24/7 getting plenty of attention – just like he likes it. He’s the most embarrassing representation of the United States, and the disdain for him and his administration grows by the day here.
Right now they are trying to ram a huge billionaire’s tax bill through that is going to lead us into the next great depression. Mark my words. If it passes in any thing close to the form it’s in now, it will devastate our economy and send us into a depression. But it will make Trump and his cohorts, his donors, the 1% of Americans who own the 90% of the wealth in this country, even MORE wealthy. And the rest of us will suffer severely.
Trump is positioning the US for war with N. Korea. Today he announced severe sanctions to further cripple the economy and food supply of the N. Koreans.
He tried to lift a ban on elephant trophies that Obama had put in place. We as a country are not allowed to import any part of an endangered species, as a trophy or pet. But Trump wanted to lift this ban. Why? Because it was an Obama law. And because his sons are “big game hunters” – or pussies if you ask me. Only cowards hunt endangered species, or farm-locked animals.
Today a $900billion dollar Russian oligarch owned yacht – yes, $900 BILLION – cruised into a slip in a spot about 8 miles from Trump’s Mar a Lago home in Florida. Trump is due there this week for the holiday. Coincidence? I think not. The Russian oligarch who owns the yacht is said to be Putin’s right hand man. I’m sure he’s here for a meeting with Trump, or one of his sons, or his son-in-law, Kuchner. I don’t understand if we have legal sanctions against the Russians (since Aug. 30, 2017) WHY they are NOT being upheld? WTF is a Russian yacht doing being allowed even NEAR this country??? Treason I say, Treason. The mere fact that the Trumps hob-nob with Russians is enough to make me want to vomit. He’s selling out our country lock, stock and barrel.
I go to court tomorrow afternoon to address my violating my bail conditions, the charge from last month. Hopefully my attorney will keep my ass out of jail. I’ve done everything I can do to prevent that. It’s up to the lawyer and the prosecutor at this point. Wish me luck.
I’m off to bed. Tell me, what do YOU think about the multitude of sexual harassment claims in the news? Do you think there should be a “time limit” on accusing someone of these types of things?