One Bad Apple…A Pro-Trans Ally

…does not make the whole fucking basket bad.  I just read a blog that kind of pissed me off.  But isn’t that why we read others personal blogs? So that we know about some of these opinions and radical views that may be so much different from our own?

This blog was written by someone who calls herself a “radical femme” and one who actually claims to also be a TERF  (Trans exclusionary radical feminist.   I’m not calling anyone out by name, but let it be known that I am a huge Trans ally, yes I am well known to be pro-Trans, as she put it in the blog.  As a big Ole super Butch dyke I stand all of 5ft4in tall in support of my Trans friends. I can very much relate to how they would be hurt and angered to read some of the blogs that I just read.  

Now, I fully respect everyone’s right to voice their own opinions and ideas, and to write whatever thdy want in their blogs, but to claim that their view alone is the only right one doesn’t sit well with me.  I don’t claim that I know what it is like to be trans because I don’t, I am a Butch Lesbian.  How could I ever know what it’s like to be Trans?  Just like I have no idea of what it would be like to be femme.  Those things are just beyond me, but I can try to be supportive, understanding and caring.  

The parts of these blogs that I object to the most is the constant rehashing of a couple of pervs and their evidently well known actions….too much for me to discuss here but it has to do with the “bathroom bills” and a few bad apples who evidently use the Trans umbrella to their advantage in doing nasty, hateful and illegal things.  These same names and stories seem to be a main stay in her blogs against mostly transwomen.  I didn’t notice as much about transmen.  I know many very good people who fall under the tran umbrella.  Just because some serious pervert is using his sexuall identity to a cost little girls doesn’t mean that this is what all trans people do!!!  It’s akin to saying that all people from Maine are lumberjacks, just because a select few are.  I don’t get how she can base her aversion to sharing a women’s room with ano MtF person on just a few horror stories.  

I once kinda liked this person who did not have any understanding of trans identity.  I remember how I would cringe when she would refer to her friends partner as an “it” because she didn’t get that the person was actually a male.  She just couldn’t wrap her mind around it,and I know some people are just like this.  Not everyone chooses to hAve the kinds of expanded circles that I may have, which give me 

I would try to have sensible conversations about sex, sexuality and gender identity with her, but some people just need to have more experience with things before they really ever get it.  It sounds to me like this Blogger is a very well educated woman, a Lesbian and has good intentions toward the Lesbian community.  She comes off as well read and is a very good writer as well.  I wonder if she has any real Trans friends or acquaintenances?  She should reach out to some and see that one Bad Apple doesn’t ruin the whole basket.  

She just doesn’t seem to believe that there are really honestly Trans men and Trans women in our world and under this gender non-conforming umbrella and they are here to stay.   MB

#trans 

Week of Chaos

I’ve been writing like a fiend.  This Trump asshole has me in a fucking rage.  I don’t know what he has done so far that angers me the most.  Actually, yes, it’s the mere fact that in a week he has tilted the scales of justice in this country 

Online, on Facebook and Twitter – my 2 main hangouts – have daily lists of his doings and executive orders, I will try to find one to add to this post.  I have been writing a lot but not posting for a couple of reasons…one is that I know that all of Trumps shenanigans get plastered over every media outlet in existence, so what you are reading here might seem a bit like either old news or is my take and opinion on the situation.  I don’t want to bore you with my being so involved in the resistance and writing about it all year time.  My blog is where I do 99% of my writing.  I do have two pages here on WordPress though, I just don’t usually use the other page much, but I am thinking about doing some other writing over there.   The other page is called Butch 2.0 for those who are curious.   Not much there but a bunch of old news private posts right now.   Hmmm….I need to visit it and do some updating.   

So the latest executive order banning people from 7 select primarily Muslim, countries from entering the USA for at least the next 90-120 days.  Anyone wishing to come here must then undergo “extreme vetting” before being considered for entry.  Many are calling this Trump’s Muslim Ban.  Even he himself used those words leading up ton actually doing it.  Now he claims it’s not about religion, but about keeping terrorists out of our country.  Wonder what his grand plan for dealing with home grown terroristo is?

 I think that this latest order is more of him and Bannon setting up a “shock event” that will keep everyone confused and occupied with trying to fight it and him.  While they have  everyone distracted with this ban they are up to something even more sinister that would most likely be very unpopopular with even more people.  As one person I read put it it is like “throwing a dead cat on the table”  drawing everyone’s attention to the dead cat while he’s sneaking something even worse in through the back door.  

This is not what America is about.  I pray that my foreign readers realize that we are here being basically run over by this new administration. The Trump / Bannon team is deadly to democracy.  They are scaring all of us daily.  We keep waiting for him to institute martial law.  Or pronounce himself dictator or king.  He certainly  wants to do that, its obvious.  The man is madly in love with himself and thinksee that he can do no wrong.

My thoughts about all of these crazy, unconstitutional things he is trying to do are really all over the place.  The way he is choosing to government us by executive order after order does not sit well with me at all.  His total lack of transparency, lack of communicating with the press, his ban on all government offices that keeps them from talking to the press about anything is just all part of his grand plan to keep us all in the dark and feed us only the shit he wants us to know, is just plain WRONG.   We are lucky that we still get our local news and weather reports…because I am sure if team Trump had it there way they would only allow Fox TV to feed us their lines of bullshit. 

All around the country there are daily demonstrations and protests.  The repiblicans say ” this is just a small group of people” as they try to downplay the serious outrage boiling across this land.  Now there are daily protests at all of the international airports in respoused to Trump’s. Chaotic Muslim travel ban.  

Trump notices the protesters for sure.  He mentions them in his tweets.  Yes, we havery a sitting president who chooses to use Twitter as his main communication to his constituents.  We must keep up the resistance to Trump.   No matter how long it takes or what it takes we must not let this be easy for Trump or Bannon as they scramble for complete control.  

I invite you to write to me, to leave comments and your input on my pages.  #womensmarch #whyimarch #stateofwomen #resist 

MB

Monday 1-23-17

its been a very trying few days.  i hae written extensuvely about my views of this catastrophic thing they are now touting as the Trump presidency. 

On Friday, the 20th, he was inaugurated as our President.  I am still in awe of how he ever got to that position, peopl were evidentl blind and deaf, he said outloud how racist and anti-women he is — he let us know in no uncertain terms what he intends to do with this country.  He will try to run it like a kingdom, with himself as King.  Mark my words, this man has no good intentions for the real people of America.  He will protect his wallet and those of his cabinet (most of whom financially contributed to his candidacy and are all poised nicely to do him favors; to his bidding whenever he calls upon them.  

So on Saturday millions and millions of women around the world gathered and marched, and many men joined us.  We marched to make sure that Trump doesn’t forget we are here and we are watching.  We marched to say that we won’t go backwards with our rights.  We are voters, we are citzens, we are Americans from all walks of life and we are women.  Women have had to fight bitterly to gain our rights, and we will not sit back now and let them be taken away one by one, especially by a group of old white men in Washington DC.  

Today, Monday, 1-23-17 Trump reinstated the gag rule.  He signed an executive order stating that no funding will be given to any group, clinic, organization or individual who speaks of abortion in their family planning discussions, literature, or through any other means.  Yeah, Mr. Trump if we don’t disucss it then it won’t exist, right? WRONG.  By eliminaning discussion and information on abortion you basically put us back into the ages of backroom abortions done by coathangers and where many women will die.  Abortion is a very very personal choice.  It should remain thus.  And professional counselling that speaks of abortion also does so in a very sensitive and an informative manner.  Women, especially those young and uneducated need to know the right and medically backed information,and not be forced to the streets, back alleys, unsanitary rooms, and God knows where else to rely on second hand — possibly wrong and detremental hearsay.  

I’m not trying to talk about abortion here, but more the fact that he is de-funding things like Planned Parenthood when he institutes such a gag order.  It starts here, with the hot button topic that he knows will win him approval with the religious right and the pro-life crowd.  He is once again pandering to his base.  And this is only the beginning.  The message he is sending is that 

On day one, immediately after his taking his position he had the entire Whitehouse.gov web site revamped to reflect only his views and ideas.  He eliminated pages about LGBT rights, Native Americans, Energy Conservaton and clean energy, and any other pages on social justice and civil rights.  The guy and his administration do not believe in civil rights or social justice.  They do not believe in equality for all by any means.  He is controling all of the republicans like marionette puppets, they are afraid  to speak out against anything he does or says for fear that he will eviserate them personally and politically as he has done to others already.  He scoffs at our laws, he will not release his tax returns, he won’ divest from his companies, he obviously has no intention of upholding our constitution.  

Democracy requires our effort.  We must keep the movement that was started by the Women’s March this last Saturday, moving and moving hard and fast.  We cannot go back intot he woodword and become complacent with this administration.  Millions of us marched all around this country, as well as on 7 continents of the world.  I even saw photos of women gathered in Antartica!  It was amazing, exhilerating and it must must must continue!  We have to keep our collective voice loud and clear, equality for all.  Justice for all  Protection for those who need it.  Freedom the way it is meant to be.  

I am pissed that my country is even in this fucked up predictament.   it is just ludicrous.  This man should have stayed in the private sector with this billionaire, I own the wortld attitude.   He is so in love with himself and in some weird way he thinks Americans love him too.  Well I sure don’t.  I do not like to use the word “hate” either, I reserve that word for war criminals like his friend Putkin.  But he sure is up there on that list with me.  
I am not working this week.  Got some time off and going to try to focus on my writing and some stuff around my house.  I am sure I will be busy standing watch over what kinds of things Trump does over the rest of this first week in office.  I am half expecting him to order the Army Corps of Engineers to our Mexican border to begin to design his new Great Wall.  He will do it, just when is the only question. 

I want to thank all of my foreign friends who have reached out to me during this trying time.  I am glad that I am not alone in all of my thouhts of what this could seriousl mean to the US. And it is interesting to see that people outside of my country can see the writing on the wall too.  I suppose that if you have a lot of money and agree with his racist / sexist/mysogenistic and hateful views you are a pretty happy camper right now, just know that you are also in the disillusioned minority.  I can think of one or two people in my past who probably just love Trump.  ha! Idiots.

Impending Doom

Time has trickled by since November when we found out that our next president would be Trump.  (the guy could even go by one name…like Cher or Beyonce, Prince or Madonna…Trump)  I’ve been trying like hell to comprehend what all of the people who are about to be in charge of running this country is going to mean to all of us – particularly the minorities, marginaized populations, the poor, sick and those who have been singled out already by statements or comments made by Trump or his posse of evil.  I find it very disconcerting to even THINK that these people, particularly Trump and Bannon, are really going to hold the most powerful positions in the land come this Friday.  I don’t understand how this all happened, while we all watched.

Inauguration day is Friday January 20th.  I don’t want to watch the “show” on television, but at the same time I do want to know what he will say to the country in that moment.  So I am not sure whatI will do.  It will obviously be recorded and played over and over on televison for the next week at least.  So I am bound to see itone way or another.  Supporters of the Trumpster have called me names like un-American, traitor and scum for not wanting to watch the inauguration of this guy on Friday.  I do not care what you want to call me, I do not believe that he has any good intentions for anyone but the rich.  I believe that he will turn the hands of time back 50 years as he tries to dismantle all of the good that has been fought so hard for along the lines of equality and freedom.  

And with the full house and senate loaded in his favor with GOP representatives, it is going to be too easy for him to push anything he wants through our system…it feels like the balance in our government is way, way off right now.  And it feels really weird, like we are all either on the side of awaiting impending doom or on the side of blind celebration of this dangerous man and his incoming administration.  I have this real sinking feeling in my gut.  It just seems to get worse as as each hour passes and we get that much closer to this somehow becoming our true reality.   

I will continue to resist and to remain vigilant as this next administration begins.Maybe one person can’t make much of a difference but the millions marching together in the name of equality and freedom is bound to spread the word to the government that we are watching closely and will not allow them to destroy our democracy.  The fight is just about to begin and lines are being drawn in the sand.  I may not be able to be marching in my nations Capitol this Saturday but I will meet up with local marchers here (in Portsmouth NH) and will stand united with all who will march everywhere.  It doesn’t matter if you can’t get to DC, you can certainly create your own form of resistance and speak out in many other ways.  

Today I took out the new rainbow flag that I just got around Christmas.  It’s the first full sized rainbow flag I have ever owned even.   I got the flag pole out and mounted the flag and hung it proudly on my front porch.  If there was not a sign ordinance in my neighborhood I would have a big “Love Trumps Hate” sign in my front yard too.  But the flag will probably cause enough stir in my little neighborhood as it is.  I was warned against putting it up when I got it, so I had to take some time to consider that it may entice some hate to be thrown my way.  It’s a chance I am willing to take.  I’m not willing to be quiet like most would like me to be.  

#womensmarch  #whyimarch 

I March for my family, my friends and for the future of America.  I March for those I know and for those I will meet,  I March because I believe in equality for all people and for our freedom to be our authentic selves.  

Peace and Love.  –MB

Birthday #55

Today I woke up to the first day of my 56th year on this big blue marble.  Yes, I turned 55 today, completing 55 years here.  I realize how very lucky and blessed that I truly am.  I never thought I would live into my senior years  — yup I said it, senior years.  I am getting older and while I think things should be differnt in many ways, I am very accepting of things being just what they are for me.  I am fairly happy, very healthy and lucky to have the love and support of a super family and some awesome friends.  Life is good. Even on a bad day I have little to comlain about, if anything.  

Winter is especially difficult on me psychologically.  I tend to get depressed more easly, my emotions are thin and oten show when I do not want them to show.  I tend to personally spend more time alone, preferring to be miserable by myself.  I always have the sweet company of my little dogs, Lulu and Nola  But I think that even the sense my offish attitude and the lack of enthusiasam in me.  They do quietly snuggle up to me on the couch and watch endless hours of televison.  Lu is currently laying in my lap while I type here.  She is just so content to just be with men o matter what.  And when I am feeling down she tries to comfort me  in her cute little ways.  

I believe that my January moods are results of several things. I am always feelin a bit let down after the excitement of the Christmas and New Years’ holidays. The exciting lead up to those holidays and the preparation for them is always fun and awsome for me.  When it is over there si some what of a void; a let down from the fun and excitement.  Then there is my birthday, basically 16 days after Christmas.  I wish it were in a different time of year, but I was born a Capricorn and there is no changing that. Anyone with a birthday or special day so close to the bg Christmas holiday knows what it’s like.  Often people are burned out from parties and celebrations, they are trying to get back into the swing of work, school and other normal activities.  So without a facebook reminder my birthday does not always get remembered.  Now at 55 it is not such a big deal….or is it?  

Tonight my family had a small birthday party for me.  We celebrated with some appetizers, salad and pizza from the local pizza shop which we had delivered.  My family was all there, save for my younger brother Paul, who never seems to pay any attention to family events anyways.  They collectively gave me a gift certificate for the Merrel Rovers that I have been wanting and needing.  I am hoping to go get them in the next few days.  I am off from work until Friday.  And I am excitd to get those shoes!  I really appreciated that they listended to what I wanted and didn’t get me things I didn’t need.

It snowed a little the other day. So we have about 3-4 inches of the white, dry fluffy kind of snow on the ground now. It’s supposed to warm up considerably in the next few day.  My feeling is that any day without snow falling from the sky is a good day, and a day closer to Spring.  I am just not that enthused about winter weather.  But I live in Maine and this is a part of life here.  I love it here in general, and I have no plans to move away from here now or in the future.  My roots are here, and my aging parents are here, my extended family is here and it’s really a great place to live in my opinion.  I have the ocean, the mountains, rural living and cities close enough at a short drive away.  It is very diverse living geographically.  Plus I have a cozy home that will serve me and the dogs for many years to come.  What more coul I ask for ?  The only thing that I wished there were more of was a more solidified LGBTQ community.  And maybe a good woman to love me. But I can certainly live without those things, I have up until now, so I will just keep on living my happly little solitary life.  

So what does 2017 and my turning 55 bring me in the coming year?  What do I really wish for and want to happen in my life?  I’m not 100% sure, but I want it to be good things this year.  Last year really sucked for the most part.  I will no remember 2016 with any kind of fondness at all.  I am hoping that this new year will show me some kindness, that I will connect with more great people both in person and online.  I’m hoping to maybe meet that “right” woman who will light my world on fire and who would need me as much as I need her.  I know she is out there, we just need to find each other and connect.  Yes, finding her would be a great thing to happen for me in 2017. 

Obama is giving his final speech as our President.  I am really worried about what follows in the next few weeks.  With the inauguration of DJT on the 20th I believe that our world will change.  I am scared; afraid that we will enter a sort of “bully culture”.  I will be attending the local march here in Portsmouth NH on the 21st to show my on anger and dismay at Trump and his wacko choices for cabinet positions.  I will be there to show my solidarit with like minded people who want to see this country be a kind and sensible place; a place of love and equality for all.  I feel more need now to be participating in anything that leads us all to only good things in America.  

We need to really watch what this new President does, especially in his first 100 days of office.  We need to make sure that he is doing things legally and above the board.  We need to speak for transparency. He has been appointing some very shady and dangerous people to his cabinet positions.  It is obvious that he intends to rule with an iron hand.  He thinks he is now untouchable and has complete power.  I don’ t think he realizes he is a president and not a fucking King.  I bet the bastard would wear a damned crown if he could get away with it.  

I do think that it will be very interesting to see what happens.  I believe we are in for a good long period of unrest and volitility.  We cannot let Trump dismantle our government as he intends to do,it will be devastating and will hurt all of us.   We must all stand up and fight for that which we believe is right, and for the constitution of the United States.  

Birthday #55

Today I woke up to the first day of my 56th year on this big blue marble.  Yes, I turned 55 today, completing 55 years here.  I realize how very lucky and blessed that I truly am.  I never thought I would live into my senior years  — yup I said it, senior years.  I am getting older and while I think things should be differnt in many ways, I am very accepting of things being just what they are for me.  I am fairly happy, very healthy and lucky to have the love and support of a super family and some awesome friends.  Life is good. Even on a bad day I have little to comlain about, if anything.  

Winter is especially difficult on me psychologically.  I tend to get depressed more easly, my emotions are thin and oten show when I do not want them to show.  I tend to personally spend more time alone, preferring to be miserable by myself.  I always have the sweet company of my little dogs, Lulu and Nola  But I think that even the sense my offish attitude and the lack of enthusiasam in me.  They do quietly snuggle up to me on the couch and watch endless hours of televison.  Lu is currently laying in my lap while I type here.  She is just so content to just be with men o matter what.  And when I am feeling down she tries to comfort me  in her cute little ways.  

I believe that my January moods are results of several things. I am always feelin a bit let down after the excitement of the Christmas and New Years’ holidays. The exciting lead up to those holidays and the preparation for them is always fun and awsome for me.  When it is over there si some what of a void; a let down from the fun and excitement.  Then there is my birthday, basically 16 days after Christmas.  I wish it were in a different time of year, but I was born a Capricorn and there is no changing that. Anyone with a birthday or special day so close to the bg Christmas holiday knows what it’s like.  Often people are burned out from parties and celebrations, they are trying to get back into the swing of work, school and other normal activities.  So without a facebook reminder my birthday does not always get remembered.  Now at 55 it is not such a big deal….or is it?  

Tonight my family had a small birthday party for me.  We celebrated with some appetizers, salad and pizza from the local pizza shop which we had delivered.  My family was all there, save for my younger brother Paul, who never seems to pay any attention to family events anyways.  They collectively gave me a gift certificate for the Merrel Rovers that I have been wanting and needing.  I am hoping to go get them in the next few days.  I am off from work until Friday.  And I am excitd to get those shoes!  I really appreciated that they listended to what I wanted and didn’t get me things I didn’t need.

It snowed a little the other day. So we have about 3-4 inches of the white, dry fluffy kind of snow on the ground now. It’s supposed to warm up considerably in the next few day.  My feeling is that any day without snow falling from the sky is a good day, and a day closer to Spring.  I am just not that enthused about winter weather.  But I live in Maine and this is a part of life here.  I love it here in general, and I have no plans to move away from here now or in the future.  My roots are here, and my aging parents are here, my extended family is here and it’s really a great place to live in my opinion.  I have the ocean, the mountains, rural living and cities close enough at a short drive away.  It is very diverse living geographically.  Plus I have a cozy home that will serve me and the dogs for many years to come.  What more coul I ask for ?  The only thing that I wished there were more of was a more solidified LGBTQ community.  And maybe a good woman to love me. But I can certainly live without those things, I have up until now, so I will just keep on living my happly little solitary life.  

So what does 2017 and my turning 55 bring me in the coming year?  What do I really wish for and want to happen in my life?  I’m not 100% sure, but I want it to be good things this year.  Last year really sucked for the most part.  I will no remember 2016 with any kind of fondness at all.  I am hoping that this new year will show me some kindness, that I will connect with more great people both in person and online.  I’m hoping to maybe meet that “right” woman who will light my world on fire and who would need me as much as I need her.  I know she is out there, we just need to find each other and connect.  Yes, finding her would be a great thing to happen for me in 2017. 

Obama is giving his final speech as our President.  I am really worried about what follows in the next few weeks.  With the inauguration of DJT on the 20th I believe that our world will change.  I am scared; afraid that we will enter a sort of “bully culture”.  I will be attending the local march here in Portsmouth NH on the 21st to show my on anger and dismay at Trump and his wacko choices for cabinet positions.  I will be there to show my solidarit with like minded people who want to see this country be a kind and sensible place; a place of love and equality for all.  I feel more need now to be participating in anything that leads us all to only good things in America.  

We need to really watch what this new President does, especially in his first 100 days of office.  We need to make sure that he is doing things legally and above the board.  We need to speak for transparency. He has been appointing some very shady and dangerous people to his cabinet positions.  It is obvious that he intends to rule with an iron hand.  He thinks he is now untouchable and has complete power.  I don’ t think he realizes he is a president and not a fucking King.  I bet the bastard would wear a damned crown if he could get away with it.  

I do think that it will be very interesting to see what happens.  I believe we are in for a good long period of unrest and volitility.  We cannot let Trump dismantle our government as he intends to do,it will be devastating and will hurt all of us.   We must all stand up and fight for that which we believe is right, and for the constitution of the United States.  

2017 and Thoughts on Friendships

I hope 2017 is going to be a good year for everyone.  Personally I have to believe that it will be better than 2016 by far!  

2016 was a difficult year and a year of surprises, disappointments and a few triumphant moments for me.  It was a year of changes; of making some good albeit difficult choices.  

My personal friends list underwent a major revision and I laid some much needed groundwork  for determining who I seriously called a true friend and who falls into that zone of acquaintances.  Yup, I set my standards high this time.  I am tired of fake people and those who come into my life full guns and then just disappear.  Trust is a huge issue of mine.  I can’t trust someone who is a fair weather friend and who can just disappear on me completely.  2015 & 2016 showed me a couple of those people and how it felt to be just kicked to the curb.  So now I have rules and a much higher standard thy I hold people to if they want to be in my life.  Fucked those fakes.

Trusting anyone with my innermost thoughts and feelings has never been an easy thing for me. I’ve trusted and been burned badly.  Thus now I am much more cautious and my trust must be earned over time.  While I do sort of miss a person who isn’t in my life anymore I do get that it was that person’s choice and they had a lot going on personally that I could not compete with.  I only wish I had learned sooner not to invest so much time into a person; not to become emotionally involved, when that person doesn’t commit to you on the same level.

I am not an easy person to communicate with all of the time.  I tend to hold my cards close to the vest in fear of getting hurt.  This makes it difficult to have a close relationship with me.  I know this.  If the right person ever comes around who can prove to me that I can trust her it may be different.  I do want to be close to some one again, to share laughter, secrets and maybe even a little romance…but I don’t care to get attached like I did last time and get kicked to the curb again.  That really hurt me and the hurt has stayed with me like a scar on my heart.  I have shown very little interest in anyone else for the last year plus…as much as that sucks. 

I have developed a new friendship, actually an old one rekindled to be exact.  I met and was frinds with Linda way back the day, but we eventually chose separate paths and our lives went in different directions for many years.  This last year we reconnected and are now very good buddies. she is about as straight as they come, which is fine with me, I am not interested in her in any sort of romantic way.  We are just mutually respectful best friends.  I trust her implicitly and she has got my back 100%. I am very dedicated to our friendship and value it very very much.  People who see us together often think that we are a couple, but there could be nothing further from the truth, we are just very close friends who would do just about anything for each other.  True friendship, it really is a wonderful thing.

I have dabbled a bit in the romantic friendship sort of area lately, butnothing seems to work out for me.  I have been talking to women who are far away from me geographically. That just seems to be the only kind of women that I am meeting.  I meet them online, usually because of this blog and my interaction on social media venues.  I think that I have met pretty much all of the various types via this methodolgy.  I have met some good, decent women and I have met some pretty out there types. I have met fun girls and serious girls, girls who are laid back like me and then I have met a few who are so self absorbed that they could not possibly be considered relationship material.  I got myself overy involved with a foreign chick a couple of years ago and it went south in a disasterous way.  I do like getting to know someone through messaging, email and skype.  It just makes a lot of sense in todays dating world.  What I don’t like is getting attached or investing time and energy and then not having it pan out in any good way.  I think that for 2017 I am going to just stay single and talk to whoever I want to talk to for whatever reasons.  No committing to any one person and getting myself riled up when things do go as I envision them in my head.  

I really just like to interact with interesting and fun people in general…some will possibly become friends and some will obviously not.  I like intellectuals; people who like to talk about interesting stuff like books, sports, politics and who have interesting stories of their own to share.  I get bored with the cutsie stuff – one can only take so many cute pictures of puppies before it just gets old.  

I did learn one major lesson in trying to be a helpful friend in 2016 and I got burned hard.  I helped someone out that I thought was a friend and she in turn stole from me, lied to me and put on quite a show before I smartened up at the suggestion of other caring friends and booted her out of my life and out of my home where I had let her stay to help her out as she was between living arrangements.  I even helped out her 18 yr old son and loaned him a good laptop which I will never see again.  Yeah, I tend to give people more chances to be good people than I should sometimes.  I like to think that people are inherently good, and if you treat them the way you want to be treated then you will bring out the best in them….this is not always the case.  This particular person I am speaking of is really scum of the earth, to take advantage of someone who is giving and trying to help her out was just really a rotten slimey thing to do.  I feel bad for her son, who is now an adult and in college (last I knew anyways).  He really got the short end of the proverbial stick with her.  I don’t like him much as he’s a very nasty and mean kind of guy, but I see why he is that way now.  

So in conclusion, pick your friend wisely.   Value those who truly value you.  There is nothing more precious or priceless than a true friend.

Peace.   ~MB