I have just read and reread twice a very convoluted blog by a radical feminist, who I think is probably also a TERF, where she calms that Butch lesbians do not exist. To her I say here I am mother fucker. In the flesh. I am a Butch lesbian and damned proud of it. I was not socialized Butch, I was not “made” Butch. Butch is my gender identity, period. I have been this way all my life. I grew up knowing I was Butch, no matter how many times I was feminized by clothing or adornments, I was still Butch. I was clocked from the time I was a teenager as a lesbian. There was no single thing that happened to me, I wasn’t abused or violated. I don’t hate men. And I don’t hate women.
This blogger is ballsy, to say that Butch women try to be superior to women in general. That they use their masculinity to degrade women. She claims that the Butch/Femme dynamic is unhealthy to women. That is a hetronormative hierarchy that keeps women down. This has not been my experience at all.
When sales people or anyone tries to sell something that they don’t know about I call them “feather merchants”. This blogger is a serious “feather merchant”. She knows nothing about Butch or Femme or the dynamics that shape our lives, and our loves. She knows nothing about gender. She can try to sell you the feathers, but she doesn’t know how they are formed or what they are useful for, because she isn’t the bird who grew them and uses them. To sell anything, and that includes an idea, you must live part of it, you must believe in it and you must know what you speak about.
The whole article that she wrote is full of serious Butch bashing bullshit. She hits Butches from every angle possible trying to negate our existence. This is the kind of hurtful shit that really gets to me. To tell me that I don’t exists because of what I am in this world. That hurts.
I didn’t choose to be Butch, it’s just who I AM. It just turned out to be who I grew to be through my life and my ways. The mere pondering that Butch is to be dismissed as some radical take on masculinity for patriarchal purpose is just stupid.
Obviously this article makes me think about the whole Lesbian community…hell the whole Queer community. There seem to be so many kinds of people, and I truly believe that it takes all kinds to make a community. We should be mutually supportive of each other as human beings – let alone as women. I personally happen to be Butch, you can be whatever you choose to be or not to be, but for God’s sake be yourself comfortably and without harming or bashing others for doing the same thing. I have friends who do not identify as Butch or Femme, who just identify as lesbians in general. Then I have many who do identify within the Butch/Femme spectrum and who are very happy. We don’t see this as being misogynist or as disrespectful to women at all. We worship women, hell we’re all lesbian in the end!
I am going to put a link to the offending blog here. I’d just let you know your comments won’t make it on there if they are against her opinions, she screens them all out. Be ready to be angry, be ready to be amazed that this woman calls herself a radical feminist. She forgets history and how things happened.