I’m feeling kind of wild and frisky tonight….not sure what to write about so I’ll write about a couple of thing that have been on my mind or that I’ve been reading about lately.
Serial Monogamy…yeah that’s sort of been my relationship style, if you call it a style. I am a loyal and committed son of a Bitch for sure. Plus it’s just too difficult to juggle too many people for me. I would rather see one person than do a lot of dating around, and by that I don’t mean sleeping around, I’ve got more couth than that and more self respect. It takes a certain kind of woman to get me into bed, to get me into desiring her body in that way where I have so have to satisfy my hunger for sex.
I mean can we talk here? There’s a difference in my life between fucking and making love…I happen to really enjoy both. and I like a partner who can roll both ways with me. Fucking is far more primal and instinctual with me, it’s something that I just have to have, fast and furious, hard and long. Making love is a much slower process and intense in it’s own way.
I don’t talk about sex much in this blog…but Kink Praxis blog (XanWest) did a blog piece called “I Talk A Lot but Not About That” on how us Butch tops don’t talk much about our own needs and wants as far as sex goes. And they are right! We don’t talk about it, but are much more concerned with the bottom’s needs, wants and feelings…that’s what we want to talk about, no our own feelings and needs. Xan says something to the effect that the top does and the bottom feels...seems to work for me perfectly. We seem to have some unwritten law about discussing such things, am I right? Our needs and wants seem obvious to us, we need and want our partners to be satisfied and we have a hell of a time enjoying that ourselves.
One of my Fetlife friends started conversation about Stone Butch sexuality and the way it’s easier for them to date Stone Femmes…I have to say I nodded wholeheartedly on this one. It IS easier for me to date a Stone Femme because then I don’t have to go through the explanation that often you do with those who don’t get the Stone identity part, I don’t have to be uncomfortable and I feel much more understood by a Stone Femme, in ways that not all can really understand me. Man, you gotta love the Butch – Femme dynamic, it never leaves us without something to discuss and haggle over.
Let’s talk about testosterone….I take a low dose T for two reasons, it boosts my energy level and it boosts my sex drive. I am 53 and I needed a little T to make things better and to make sense in my life. I’m not on a transitioning dose and am not transitioning. Other than some extra body hair growth the T has done just what the doctor ordered for me.
Vulnerable Verbiage wrote an interesting blog on her opinion on Testosterone…here’s the link…Grips from Society and it’s her personal study into whether we are allowing HRT and T therapies too quickly with people. It’s an interesting read and I do agree with some parts of her writing on the subject. She wanders into thoughts about a gender neutral world…where it would be more normal just to be a good person than to have to pick a specific gender
So there’s what’s on my mind tonight…T and sex…pretty typical actually. I don’t think I am the only one who thinks about sex on a daily basis, I ‘m just brave and crazy enough to admit it.
I am going to see 50 Shades on Saturday night….and I want to come home and re-enact the whole film…damn….