She says she wonders if I even know what love is. (*Remember the crazy case a couple years back that said I wasn’t Butch because I wouldn’t do her?….same scenario, different woman)
And I do know what love is. And I know what it is not.
It’s not ignoring someone who cares deeply for you. It’s not hiding from your emotions, and hiding your emotions from your lover. It is keeping the communications lines completely open, being there when the other person needs you. Love is about being loving. It’s about showing affection and about paying attention.
Love is not hard. Love is not difficult. Love should come easily and be freely given. If it’s not easy then it has to be worked on together if the two people want it to work. Love is not a one way street, where one can just sit back and wait for the other all the time.
Not making your lover your priority is not love. Even if you have other responsiblities in life you will find a way if it’s a priority. No one is “too busy” ever. If one is “too busy” then something is way out of whack. Love is one of the biggest stress relievers known to man – and woman! Love is knowing your partner, knowing what makes them tick and what they need and want in the relationship. Love is not ignoring things – even little things. Love is not putting them off until you have “time”.
Love is when two people really care and want to be together and they find a way to do exactly that – be together. Love is being supportive and about also accepting support when you need it. Love is not about saying things won’t work and then being angry when they don’t. It’s about believing in the relationship, and making it work.
There are so many more things that love is about…I couldn’t list them all here.
Now, I’m not the one who doesn’t understand what Love is….
(taken from a much longer private post)