I have been vlogging on Youtube since March of 2009, and have done well over 700 videos in total, most about my life, my experience and my views on various topics ranging from politics, to local news to LGBT issues and lifestyles. I have also been blogging in written word for even more years here on WordPress and on other blog sites over the years (although now it’s only here on WP which I totally love and prefer over all others). I’ve seen all the types of hate and disagreement possible from both venues. I’ve watched the drama unfold on Facebook as well. Internet bullshit is just that – bullshit. I tend to just over-look it and move on with my own stuff. I do what I want, when I want, for whatever reason I want. Period. I do that in real life as well, I walk my own walk and as no one’s permission or approval in doing so. If you happen to be a reader or Youtube viewer, then you know I have a strong personality and I speak my mind fairly freely. I tend to pull no punches, I don’t strive to aggravate anyone (ok, maybe Republicans on occasion! LOL) or fight with anyone regarding any issue. I will gladly have a civilized debate if necessary. But mostly I just put my writing and videos out there, and I read the comments, occasionally I even change my opinion if another view that I hadn’t considered comes to my attention. Remember, there are always options to your thoughts, other ways to think, that are just as valid as yours or my own. I get that and I accept it fully.
I bring this up because I have gotten some backlash and been judged harshly for stating my opinions on some written blogs here on WordPress that I recently wrote about, then I got similar backlash on Youtube after speaking in defense of and about Butch-Femme dynamics after someone else had called the lifestyle “bullshit” in another video on the same venue. There has been some attempt to get me to engage in a back and forth video battle with this other person, which I am totally not going to do. I state my opinions, my own personal views and takes on issues and subjects that interest me. I don’t feel that I should necessarily be “judged” for putting out my own opinions, thoughts and views on any subject – whether those thoughts were perpetuated by another, or they are merely my reaction to something I encounter in daily life or online. I have all of the same rights to voice my opinions and experiences and to draw my own personal conclusions – based upon what I know from my own experiences – as anyone else in this country has. No one has the right to say another is wrong to make their voices heard – especially on a free and open platform such as WordPress or Youtube.
The beauty of these platforms and of our society is that it’s a free world. You are free to watch or read whatever you choose – or not read what you do not want to read/watch. It’s simple, if my opinions fly in the face of your reality then don’t listen to me, don’t watch me and don’t write and call me names because I will not engage in your fight. And if it’s not “your” fight, and you don’t have the guts to even put up a profile photo or a video of your own, yet you feel strong enough to call me names, then shame on you…who are you hiding from besides yourself? I don’t watch what I don’t care for. And sometimes I even start to watch someone and then dislike the video and don’t even finish watching it, especially if it’s very negative in content. Why would I want to even watch people who are negative and condenscending in nature to begin with? It’s a waste of my time, my energy and the power supply of my computer in all reality for me.
I speak aobut life from MY own Butch Perspective, based upon what I see, read, and experience in my own life. I need no ones permission to do this. Nor do I require or need anyone’s approval of any kind.
I appreciate constructive conversation and I value criticism when it’s applied correctly and respectfully. I thank all of my loyal readers and followers and I value their opinions as well. I want to thank the many, many who wrote me dozens of notes and sent tons of messages of support after my recent Butchphobia blog on WordPress, and my following video on Youtube. It’s because of YOU that I still do this stuff, that I am fearless to put my perspectives out there – no matter what the controversy. I appreciate the open mindedness of my audience, the interaction with good people, and the honest conversations that we have – even when they do not match my own opinions.
Everyone has their haters, those who wish to detract from the messages and those who will bring hateful, negative and bashing comments to one’s pages. I am not immune to that kind of person any more than anyone else who puts themselves out there honestly on line would be. There’s always someone who will try to pick a fight, cause you discomfort, shame and try to get you to retract your words. I handle it like most everything else – let it roll off my shoulders and fall away . I will not be silenced because someone out there doesn’t care for my words, opinions or views on any topic. I also will not engage in bad arguments, name calling or verbal bashing of another’s opinion either.
It’s just not something I want or will do.